So, We're on our second month here, and things are really falling into place.
Sera has started homeschool preschool because I couldn't get her into regular preschool here, and day care is so expensive.
I started using Time4learning.com for her homeschool, and she LOVES it! It's online, so she has the liberty of doing it whenever she wants, which, I guess is part of the homeschool appeal, but, she wakes up and the first thing she asks is "can I do time 4 learning" and she will sit and do the lessons for hours and hours. I usually have to take the laptop away from her because I have to plug it in, and I feel she needs a break. I like that it has a logon for her, and one for me as well so I can track her progress separately from what she's doing. Since we just started, and they go up and down one level of where the child is, she does tend to click on the higher level, which is a little more difficult for her, I don't like that it is so easy for her to click on the level 2 stuff, but she tries it anyways. There are even games for her to play for "recess" I love the program and am really glad I found it. Hopefully, she will get the concepts down, and be able to start preschool, or even, if I'm lucky, kindergarten next fall.
http://www.time4learning.com/homeschool-curriculum.htm
Thursday, October 6, 2011
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
Begin of Month 2
So, this month, is not so bad. I've been stuck at home, looking after my 3 year old. Not a real problem, I love this kiddo so much. Anyhow, since I've been at home with her, it makes job searching difficult. Her dad is busy, his unit is getting ready to go to California, so he is busy helping them pack and what not, so he's not really able to look into day care on post. I'm waiting on a package from my sister that has Sera's Birth Certificate in it, which SHOULD get me an ID of my own so I can look into the daycare myself. I have done some online applications, one for Dyson as a demonstrator. I have also been looking into places to live, so I can get DSHS assistance. That will cover a lot of problems. I think, that if I can get Sera into Daycare on post, she can be gone during the week days and I can find a part time job in the mornings to supplement the one with Dyson, although, if I read the ad right, it pays 18 an hour, so I wouldn't really HAVE to find a second job, because that job alone would pay 1400 a month which would supplement my 900 a month perfectly. Keeping my fingers crossed that both work out well for me.
Saturday, September 17, 2011
Month one over
Ok, so, my first month is over, I've yet to get kiddo into daycare (dad is slacking on this, he's supposed to check into daycare on post) and as long as I don't have daycare for her, I don't have an opportunity to look for a job, other than on Craigslist right now.
It's quite frustrating, but I'm not as frustrated as I was when I was on here last. Things have relaxed quite a bit. I have found a couple of groups of parents to hang out with who share the same predicament as me. Single parents, and older parents, both of which I am. As a matter of fact, we are leaving here in a little while to go to a BBQ for one of the groups. I've yet to meet these people, but I am hoping that it will be a good time because Sera really needs to get socialized, and so do I.
We found out after getting here, that Sera's dad doesn't deploy until April, so he will be here for her birthday :), I'm excited for them both for that, because he's only spent one birthday with her.
Anyhow, that's all for now.
Peace out! Jen
It's quite frustrating, but I'm not as frustrated as I was when I was on here last. Things have relaxed quite a bit. I have found a couple of groups of parents to hang out with who share the same predicament as me. Single parents, and older parents, both of which I am. As a matter of fact, we are leaving here in a little while to go to a BBQ for one of the groups. I've yet to meet these people, but I am hoping that it will be a good time because Sera really needs to get socialized, and so do I.
We found out after getting here, that Sera's dad doesn't deploy until April, so he will be here for her birthday :), I'm excited for them both for that, because he's only spent one birthday with her.
Anyhow, that's all for now.
Peace out! Jen
Thursday, September 8, 2011
Almost a month here
Well, I've been here almost a month, and to be completely honest, at this point it blows! I have no money, and no one to give me a moment's respite from my child!
What mother says that? A mother who has spent EVERY SINGLE SECOND with her child for almost a complete month, that's what mother says that. I feel so uncomfortable right now it's unreal. I have no way to go look for a job because her dad has a job, and he's gone when I should be looking for a job. I scan the want ads, but everything wants a resume and cover letter, and I've been out of the job market since I got pregnant, so 4 years now.
What fun that is, typing up a resume when the last job I had ended at the end of 2006. Even if my resume managed to get me an interview, I can't count on him to stay home and watch his daughter so I can go look for a job, he won't even find out what the fuck needs to be done to get her in daycare. He and I are complete strangers who live in the same house, but it doesn't matter that we live under the same roof because I am always attached to Sera's hip right now. I have to make sure she doesn't make too much noise, or break anything, or DO ANYTHING, because this isn't even our house, we're staying at his parents house. I feel like a complete mooch, they won't let me help with dinner, I can't buy groceries, I feel like my contribution to this house is a fricken package of toilet paper.
I'm bawling like a baby as I type this, and it's outrageous, a person shouldn't feel this way! I have NO job, no way to go get a job, no prospects of finding a place to rent because I don't have enough income, and gee, NO way to go earn one either.
Do I wish I could trade all this shit, and go back to Michigan? No fuckin way, I'd rather spend the time here in misery because I know that my daughter gets to see her dad this way, and that's more important to me than anything else on this planet, including myself. I just wish there was a way that I could be happy too.
What mother says that? A mother who has spent EVERY SINGLE SECOND with her child for almost a complete month, that's what mother says that. I feel so uncomfortable right now it's unreal. I have no way to go look for a job because her dad has a job, and he's gone when I should be looking for a job. I scan the want ads, but everything wants a resume and cover letter, and I've been out of the job market since I got pregnant, so 4 years now.
What fun that is, typing up a resume when the last job I had ended at the end of 2006. Even if my resume managed to get me an interview, I can't count on him to stay home and watch his daughter so I can go look for a job, he won't even find out what the fuck needs to be done to get her in daycare. He and I are complete strangers who live in the same house, but it doesn't matter that we live under the same roof because I am always attached to Sera's hip right now. I have to make sure she doesn't make too much noise, or break anything, or DO ANYTHING, because this isn't even our house, we're staying at his parents house. I feel like a complete mooch, they won't let me help with dinner, I can't buy groceries, I feel like my contribution to this house is a fricken package of toilet paper.
I'm bawling like a baby as I type this, and it's outrageous, a person shouldn't feel this way! I have NO job, no way to go get a job, no prospects of finding a place to rent because I don't have enough income, and gee, NO way to go earn one either.
Do I wish I could trade all this shit, and go back to Michigan? No fuckin way, I'd rather spend the time here in misery because I know that my daughter gets to see her dad this way, and that's more important to me than anything else on this planet, including myself. I just wish there was a way that I could be happy too.
Saturday, February 26, 2011
sickness, the revenge....
So, there are 72 days until we leave, and OMG! We all just got over the flu, and had something mutate into bronchitis, and sinus infections. Poor Sera got it the worst because she has bronchitis AND a sinus infection. I got a sinus infection, and Loretta got bronchitis. The flu sucked massively because I got my flu shot, and yet, I got the flu the worst :( Not happy about this at all. Ended up in the ER because of how bad it was.
Anyhow, things are moving along, we are planning the move, and I have discussed with my voc rehab counselor about the move, I've looked at colleges to attend, and houses nearby to live. Looking forward to the move, and I cannot wait!
Anyhow, things are moving along, we are planning the move, and I have discussed with my voc rehab counselor about the move, I've looked at colleges to attend, and houses nearby to live. Looking forward to the move, and I cannot wait!
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Snowpocalypse
So, today, I was supposed to get new tires for my car, but that is apparently NOT going to happen! This snow storm that started last night AFTER Loretta and I got home from school (thankfully), has not let up, and apparently isn't going to let up for at least 7 or 8 more hours, and it's 7:30 this morning, so I get to sit at home, trapped like a rat in a box and wish I could get outside even though I can't.
I will be getting the tires on Friday though because I HAVE to get back into my car, and quit driving my mom's b/c all I hear every day is her bitching about how I don't have my tires yet on my car. She's not open about it, just makes backhanded comments here and there, which IS her specialty. I can't wait until May 16th, when I am away from here for good!
I will be getting the tires on Friday though because I HAVE to get back into my car, and quit driving my mom's b/c all I hear every day is her bitching about how I don't have my tires yet on my car. She's not open about it, just makes backhanded comments here and there, which IS her specialty. I can't wait until May 16th, when I am away from here for good!
Friday, January 28, 2011
Countdown has begun!
So, I was content to just while away the weeks until it got much closer to time for the move, however, my sister is super excited, and decided to count the weeks. At her count, we have 15 weeks and 4 days before we leave, so I decided that days make it much more exciting, so I have started counting the days until we are IN Washington, and we have 100 days before we set tires on Washington grounds :)
We are trying to keep our excitement to a minimum because at the moment, our mom is going to be alone when we leave, however, that may soon change ;) She is looking into buying a house downstate so she is nearer to our brother and her parents so they can help her out. We are praying it goes through because of the fact that she will be excited then, and have her own countdown as well!
It will be stressful, trying to pack her out to get her moved into a new house, focus on school, AND our own move, but I believe in the end it will ALL be worth it :)
I'm SO EXCITED! 100 days!
We are trying to keep our excitement to a minimum because at the moment, our mom is going to be alone when we leave, however, that may soon change ;) She is looking into buying a house downstate so she is nearer to our brother and her parents so they can help her out. We are praying it goes through because of the fact that she will be excited then, and have her own countdown as well!
It will be stressful, trying to pack her out to get her moved into a new house, focus on school, AND our own move, but I believe in the end it will ALL be worth it :)
I'm SO EXCITED! 100 days!
Sunday, January 23, 2011
First Blog
Today is the day I have decided to blog about my move to Washington.
I am a single mother, I have a wonderful 2 year old daughter, and even though I am a single mother, her dad is quite involved in her life. As a matter of fact, that is the reason we are moving to Washington.
When I was 3, I knew I did not want to have children. I have a heck of a temper, and I did not want to put a child through what I wnet through at that point. Throughout the years, I tried to have a baby because my ex husband wanted one, however, I really didn't want one, so I guess it didn't work out for a reason. I was divorced at 28, and my life was great, sort of. I was single, having a good time (most of the time). I found a wonderful job taking care of animals at a pet store, and living with my best friend and my pets. At the end of my 30th year, the pet store closed and I was jobless. I decided to go to school and try to become a vet assistant through an online college. I was still living with my best friend, and things were still going well.
Enter the surprise! At the age of 31, I was sitting at home watching HGTV, and someone in the house said "I want a baby". I was the only one home besides my dog and cats. I looked around trying to find out who said it, and it became apparent I was the only one who could have. I tried to talk myself out of it. I was living in Augusta, and I didn't have a job, I didn't need a kid. A friend of mine found some orphaned kittens about 2 weeks old, so I thought to myself, "what a wonderful opportunity. I can deal with the 4 a.m. feedings, and the poopy butts and get this kid crap out of my system! So, I did it. I took the kittens in, and one of them didn't want to take to the bottle at all, but he needed to eat, so I kept it up all the while thinking "this is SO gonna work". Well, he finally took to the bottle, and started eating and as I was up in the middle of the night feeding him, I saw his little paws reach for the bottle, and I knew then that it was too late, I was hooked on having a baby.
Easter Sunday 2007, I told my roommate that I wanted to have a baby. She about choked on her dinner :) It was great! She and I sat down and talked about who I could use as a possible sperm donor, and there were 3 choices of the men that I knew, but 2 of them were not very reliable, so I didn't want to use them if I could avoid it. The third option was an old friend from when I was in the Army. He also happened to be coming to Augusta for school very soon. So, it was decided that he would be the best possible candidate for my "baby daddy". I tried to find out a way to ask him to donate to my cause, and decided that it would be best just to tell him my clock started ticking and that I was now on a mission to find a donor. I was willing to do everything for this baby by myself, the father need not be involved, and he said "I'll help". I about choked on my own breath! "Help how?" "I'll teach the kid to shoot guns, drive etc." "Oh, OK", "Hell, I'll even help you find the guy, we'll write up a checklist and take to the club. Have potential guys fill it out and say 'I'll get back to you'". Then came the biggest shock, "why wasn't I an option". "WHAT??!!!" "Why am I not a choice to be the baby's dad?" All of a sudden, I was trying to talk him OUT of being the father of my baby instead of trying to talk him into it. We decided that yes, it would be best if he was the father, and I told him he was really the ONLY choice as far as who I would want to be my "baby daddy", I just didn't know how to ask him to make a lifelong commitment to a child and forcing myself into his life for the rest of our lives. He said he was cool with it, and didn't want a commitment out of me, and I didn't want a commitment out of him, other than for the possible child we would create. We discussed everything that we possibly could to make sure we had our ducks in a row, and when he showed up in April, we began the process.
In July, I got pregnant, and he left in August to go back to Washington. I moved up to Michigan because my aunt was ill, and needed my help. I was in Michigan in September, and I talked to him almost every day for a long time and at some point I told him if he ever wanted us to move out there, that he only had to let me know, and I would do my best to get us out there. My aunt passed away the first week of November, and I wound up living with my mother and her boyfriend until the following November. I had the baby, and we went to Georgia to visit my friends, then came back home, and "baby daddy" (hereby known as bd) came out to meet his little girl. He took right to being a dad, even jumping in to change a poopy diaper. I don't think I was ever so proud of someone as when he changed his first dirty diaper. I knew right then and there that I had DEFINITELY made the right choice. We have visited him out in Washing ton, and he has come back here to Michigan a couple of times to see her. When he came out for her 2nd birthday, he said that he wanted us to move out there to Washington so he could be closer to her. I said OK, and that I had to save up the money to make the move, so it would be in December, after the fall semester at school. I sat down in October, and realized that driving through the mountains in December with a 2 year old would not really be a good idea, and he agreed, so we are moving in May!
My girl and I are SO excited, and cannot wait. It is a new place, and we will not know too many people, but we are comfortable about it. I have begun the work to find a place to stay, and I've found the college I will attend to finish my teaching degree. Now, to begin a job search so I can afford to live out there.
I am a single mother, I have a wonderful 2 year old daughter, and even though I am a single mother, her dad is quite involved in her life. As a matter of fact, that is the reason we are moving to Washington.
When I was 3, I knew I did not want to have children. I have a heck of a temper, and I did not want to put a child through what I wnet through at that point. Throughout the years, I tried to have a baby because my ex husband wanted one, however, I really didn't want one, so I guess it didn't work out for a reason. I was divorced at 28, and my life was great, sort of. I was single, having a good time (most of the time). I found a wonderful job taking care of animals at a pet store, and living with my best friend and my pets. At the end of my 30th year, the pet store closed and I was jobless. I decided to go to school and try to become a vet assistant through an online college. I was still living with my best friend, and things were still going well.
Enter the surprise! At the age of 31, I was sitting at home watching HGTV, and someone in the house said "I want a baby". I was the only one home besides my dog and cats. I looked around trying to find out who said it, and it became apparent I was the only one who could have. I tried to talk myself out of it. I was living in Augusta, and I didn't have a job, I didn't need a kid. A friend of mine found some orphaned kittens about 2 weeks old, so I thought to myself, "what a wonderful opportunity. I can deal with the 4 a.m. feedings, and the poopy butts and get this kid crap out of my system! So, I did it. I took the kittens in, and one of them didn't want to take to the bottle at all, but he needed to eat, so I kept it up all the while thinking "this is SO gonna work". Well, he finally took to the bottle, and started eating and as I was up in the middle of the night feeding him, I saw his little paws reach for the bottle, and I knew then that it was too late, I was hooked on having a baby.
Easter Sunday 2007, I told my roommate that I wanted to have a baby. She about choked on her dinner :) It was great! She and I sat down and talked about who I could use as a possible sperm donor, and there were 3 choices of the men that I knew, but 2 of them were not very reliable, so I didn't want to use them if I could avoid it. The third option was an old friend from when I was in the Army. He also happened to be coming to Augusta for school very soon. So, it was decided that he would be the best possible candidate for my "baby daddy". I tried to find out a way to ask him to donate to my cause, and decided that it would be best just to tell him my clock started ticking and that I was now on a mission to find a donor. I was willing to do everything for this baby by myself, the father need not be involved, and he said "I'll help". I about choked on my own breath! "Help how?" "I'll teach the kid to shoot guns, drive etc." "Oh, OK", "Hell, I'll even help you find the guy, we'll write up a checklist and take to the club. Have potential guys fill it out and say 'I'll get back to you'". Then came the biggest shock, "why wasn't I an option". "WHAT??!!!" "Why am I not a choice to be the baby's dad?" All of a sudden, I was trying to talk him OUT of being the father of my baby instead of trying to talk him into it. We decided that yes, it would be best if he was the father, and I told him he was really the ONLY choice as far as who I would want to be my "baby daddy", I just didn't know how to ask him to make a lifelong commitment to a child and forcing myself into his life for the rest of our lives. He said he was cool with it, and didn't want a commitment out of me, and I didn't want a commitment out of him, other than for the possible child we would create. We discussed everything that we possibly could to make sure we had our ducks in a row, and when he showed up in April, we began the process.
In July, I got pregnant, and he left in August to go back to Washington. I moved up to Michigan because my aunt was ill, and needed my help. I was in Michigan in September, and I talked to him almost every day for a long time and at some point I told him if he ever wanted us to move out there, that he only had to let me know, and I would do my best to get us out there. My aunt passed away the first week of November, and I wound up living with my mother and her boyfriend until the following November. I had the baby, and we went to Georgia to visit my friends, then came back home, and "baby daddy" (hereby known as bd) came out to meet his little girl. He took right to being a dad, even jumping in to change a poopy diaper. I don't think I was ever so proud of someone as when he changed his first dirty diaper. I knew right then and there that I had DEFINITELY made the right choice. We have visited him out in Washing ton, and he has come back here to Michigan a couple of times to see her. When he came out for her 2nd birthday, he said that he wanted us to move out there to Washington so he could be closer to her. I said OK, and that I had to save up the money to make the move, so it would be in December, after the fall semester at school. I sat down in October, and realized that driving through the mountains in December with a 2 year old would not really be a good idea, and he agreed, so we are moving in May!
My girl and I are SO excited, and cannot wait. It is a new place, and we will not know too many people, but we are comfortable about it. I have begun the work to find a place to stay, and I've found the college I will attend to finish my teaching degree. Now, to begin a job search so I can afford to live out there.
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